Motherhood Today: Moms, Career and the Child!DOD Media
Welcome to Motherhood Today! It’s another beautiful Thursday to learn new things on how moms or moms-in-the-making can handle work and the children efficiently without getting all frazzled up. Lol.
More moms than ever are in the workforce and being a full-time working mother can lead to feelings of guilt and stress because of divided attention between work and your children. The key is to focus on a plan, get organized, and find the right balance between profession and parenthood.
So, we have come up with effective ways to help make sure both your career and your children excel.
- Letting Go of Guilt.
Rather than dwell on how you’re not with your child, think about how your role in the company is benefiting the family. Perhaps you can afford certain classes or educational opportunities for your child or securing you child’s future by saving up. The most successful career moms have found ways to be efficient in both worlds and that requires being able to come to terms with choices and focus on the priorities that are in the moment. Accept that there will be good and bad days and mothers need to know that they are not alone and they should discuss their feelings with their spouses.
- Find Quality Childcare
It is paramount for a working mom to consider asking her network of friends and family for references to nannies, babysitters, and daycare centers or schools. Create a list of criteria that are important and then schedule time to interview qualified childcare providers or go on a tour to daycares in your areas or to the ones close to your place of work. A good daycare facility should have flexible hours, outdoor space and their backgrounds checked.
- Make the Mornings Easier
Get organized the morning before. “You should also decide what to make for breakfast the night and repack the diaper bag, backpacks, purses, or work bags to be placed right next to your keys, so you can grab them and lock up on your way out. Look over the next day’s to-do list and divide the schedule. This is also a good time to discuss any changes to the family schedule with your spouse. Knowing that a lot of the mundane tasks are completed will allow you to spend a few minutes eating breakfast with the kids without rushing out of the house.
- Communicate with Your Employer
Before talking to your employer or HR representative, construct a written plan detailing what you need. This information will help tailor your proposal to the terms that your employer has already embraced with your coworkers.” Every employer is different, and only you will know how much to share, but try to be as open and honest as possible. Be prepared to present alternative solutions, such as a trial period of your projected work schedule so you can show how the arrangement won’t restrict productivity.Moms seeking maternity leave should ask questions when speaking with their employer. The two biggest questions to ask are “How much time can I take off?” and “How much of that time will be paid? “It’s best to know those answers to avoid any confusion during your leave.”
- Stay Connected During the Day
Stay connected with your children even when you’re not together. For moms with younger children, consider recording yourself talking or singing on a video or record your voice reading along to a children’s book. If you’re going to miss or be late to an older child’s event, give your child something special in the morning, like a good-luck charm or a personal note. Look into options for filming the event so you can watch it later and not miss a moment. During your breaks at work, call your child caregiver to know how your child is fairing and speak with the child too if he/she is older; hearing his or her voice can help you get through a rough day, and she’ll be comforted to know you’re near.
- Limit Distractions and Time Wasters
Be disciplined and set time limits when checking email or making phone calls. Try and do most of these things when the child is sleeping. Reduce TV watching to a week to maximize time with your spouse during the evenings. Try to avoid multitasking, especially when spending time with your children. At your workplace, try to avoid wasting time. Of course you want to have a rapport with co-workers, but numerous email exchanges, casual Internet surfing, gossiping, and long lunches are distractions that will make you less productive. Focus on your tasks at work and talk to coworkers during breaks or lunchtime, if possible.
- Create Special Family Activities
Making time for your child is very crucial, both during the week and on the weekends, to nurture your family and allow everyone to bond. If you’re pressed for time, have a family breakfast or a family night time games or movies. Create activities that regularly fit into your schedule so everyone knows what to expect and what to look forward to. When you do have family outings, avoid talking about work or checking your phone. Instead, focus on your child’s’ interests such as friends, classes, and hobbies. With older children, ask for their activity suggestions and try to meet their needs. In the end, it doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you do it together.
- Spend Time with Your Spouse
Remember to nurture your relationship with your spouse, who will often be the number one person by your side. Start by having monthly date nights to get closer, feel rejuvenated, and enjoy each other’s company. Often, if you’re busy with work and home, your spouse is the first to get neglected. Fostering this relationship will bring back some excitement to the marriage and help you to “check in” with each other. For some couples, going out on a monthly date can be difficult and expensive, but that doesn’t mean you can’t focus on each other. Have an indoor date night by cooking an elegant meal together or even sitting together with a glass of wine and talking (but not about work or the children).
- Create Moments for Yourself
By managing time wisely, you can fit in “Me time”regularly. A refreshing break will help you recharge while taking care of personal needs. “Because your time is divided between your home and your career, make sure to manage your energy well. You can’t be an effective spouse or parent if you’re cranky, so take time to care for yourself to feel relaxed and effective. Lose yourself in a book before you go to sleep, take a bubble bath once a week, or treat yourself to a spa day. Fit in time for exercise (like a yoga class) or focus on a hobby. Remember to eat well and get enough rest; simple things that even the smartest moms neglect.